It happened…yes it did!!! But not in the way you think, because it isn’t me. My oldest is in 9th grade and this has been such an eye opening, confusing, heart wrenching few months. I’m glad I did HS back then and NOT now. Where to I begin???
J decided to try his hand at football at the beginning is the year…long story short, it wasn’t for him. Much to my chagrin, he quit the team.
- Lesson 1- Quitters never win. Because he is a basketball player, he had that to fall back on to stay busy. Unfortunately at his school, if you quit a team, you can’t participate in another sport until the previous sport you quit is OVER! So, he couldn’t do any preseason basketball work outs with potential teammates! This is why we teach the boys to not quit because there will always be consequences. It killed him that he could do anything with his sport until football season was over. He thought he was being punished for quitting. 💔Heartbreak #1💔
Finally, basketball tryouts come because football season is officially over. J is excited and ready to show his skills. End of the week, he’s told he unofficially officially made the JV team. He is over.the.moon!!! This decision was more special than you think because last season he was our because he broke his arm and required 2 surgeries. This killed him!!! But he worked hard and was back at it before long and playing ball a mere 4 months later. See why THIS decision was so great and important?? Well….2 days later he was cut! Why???? Apparently some other players from the football team still wanted to try out and that meant pushing some of the poor Frosh out…including mine! 😢. I’m not going to lie, I WAS HEARTBROKEN for him. I mean tears, people!!! 💔Heartbreak #2💔
- Lesson 2- There is a REASON for everything. I believe this to be true but it is damn hard to to beleive it when it is happening to someone you love! I can’t “fix” this…I can’t make this “better” and this is one of those life lessons that prepares you for…well…LIFE! We have to fall in order to get back up! 💔Heartbreak #3💔
- Lesson 3- Be the bigger person. This one was hard for me too! My son was offered to be the Team Manager of the Varsity team. Wtf???? How about my spot on the team??? But I will say that in all of my/ our parenting flaws, I/we must have done something right. He accepted the position because (and I quote) “I want to show them how dedicated I am to this sport that I love. And they are going to know I want to be on this team next year. And they won’t forget my work.” No question…without a shadow of a doubt, this kid is a BETTER person than me! I would have told them where they could put that manager position.😂. But he….he took it and he pridefully gets to be a part of the sport he loves and will (and I quote) “use this to fuel myself to get better and show them I mean it!” 💓Heart OVERJOYED!!!💓
He has only been in HS since August and he has had so many lessons in life just within that short period of time. I love this kid with all my heart and soul and I know this is all part of the plan to get him to his goal. This kid is pretty amazing and has taught me a lot! “Laugh at it, Mom. Make jokes so that way, it shows that you’ve moved on and that people see that it doesn’t bother you“.
Well played, J! WELL PLAYED!! ❤️
Thank YOU for teaching ME how to be a better person!