Whoa!!! I haven’t written a post since February….FEBRUARY,people!! Where has the time gone?? Today, May 31,2017 is what I like to call “Independence Day“! Why, you ask? SCHOOL IS OVER!!   Cue SONG…cue DANCE…cue ANYTHING!! 

Parents…I know you feel me!! There’s isn’t any more:

  • Do you have HW? (Or my FAV…did you DO your HW?)
  • Did you forget (fill in the blank)?
  • Did you study for your test/quiz?
  • Do you have clean uniforms for tomorrow?

I mean, the list can go on and on…I’d bore you to death! 

Here’s the school tally-

You remember J, my oldest? The High School Freshman?

First Day!!

We started out rocky at the beginning of the year.  How he/we/they managed to squeeze a s**t TON of life lessons into one year, I will never understand! And trust me when I say, it was MORE than just what I posted about last time.  I honestly felt like I wasn’t going to survive and worried that he wouldn’t either! But he did…!!!  I think he learned a lot about himself and what he is capable of, how strong he really is and what he has to do to continue any kind of high school success.  I asked him what he learned from this year….

  • Just because someone is NICE to you, doesn’t mean they are your friend(s).
  • Be careful who you trust.
  • I am cool in my own way and it doesn’t matter what “they” think about me.
  • Work HARD always (let’s hope that STICKS! ๐Ÿ˜‚)

Pretty insightful for a teenager, huh?  His lessons were s****y, but in the big picture, necessary.  And I’m glad that it happened now and not later during high school.  With this year under our belt, Sophomore year should be (hopefully be) less challenging! ๐Ÿ™ #bringitON

LAST Day as a Freshman!

I have learned to accept my child for who he is…a very kind young man, who is quirky and goofy, who is good at school (when he wants to๐Ÿ˜‰) and who is a lot stronger than he gives himself credit for.

I have learned that this is not my journey.  I spent a long time this year trying to “make” him into other kids.  Excuse me….WHA????   Yeah…you know when compare your kid to other kids and you try to “make” them into those kids? “(Fill in the blank) is doing GREAT, why aren’t you?“. “How come (fill in the blank) remembers (fill in the blank) and you can’t??“. You know, all that negative language  that will some how miraculously turn your child into fill in the blank“! Yeah…that works!! This is a journey that he is on and all of the lessons he needs to be a grown up has to be learned by him and not bypassed by me! 


Then, there’s Aidan (affectionately called “Big Head”)….

First Day!!!

Elementary school still is a walk in the park in comparison.  Aidan learned how to not give up! For this kid…everything, EVERYTHING is a competition. When he doesn’t get something the first time (or fails at something)…complete shut down ensues. He is so pissed at himself that he doesn’t want to try again because he thinks he will “lose” again. There was a constant reminder to him that we all make errors or mistakes. You know that happens to us mere mortals!  

He has matured and overcome this “flaw” and think he’s ready to tackle 5th grade. 

Last Day!

I was kind of prepared going into 4th grade with him (since I did with J), but I still learned.   I learned about patience.  I have the tendency to have a short string of tolerance when he starts to whine about something, but mostly  with school. “I don’t get it, Mom!”. “She’s didn’t tell us HOW to do it!“. “I can’t ……!”  Or the ever popular (and my favorite) “I don’t know……“. Ughhhhhhh!!!! But I learned to dig deep inside and realize that I am (GASP) almost 45 years old and I know this stuff because someone had the patience with me! 

Hopefully, I will carry over all of this knowledge from this school year and bring it with me into the new year in August.  Then again knowing myself….I’ll find some way to mess it again!!! ๐Ÿ˜‚

All and all, I’m just excited for the break from the “norm” and I’m going to bask in the glory of my new (albeit temporary) INDEPENDENCE!! 

Thanks folks for sticking with me through the tour of my parenting! It’s a DOOZY……

Are you celebrating your “Independence Day” now?? 

PS….I can’t honestly say that kids look any different from the first day to the last, but DAMN my new kitchen looks GOOD, huh??!!! #droppedthemike

ย High School Heartbreak ๐Ÿ’”

It happened…yes it did!!! But not in the way you think, because it isn’t me.  My oldest is in 9th grade and this has been such an eye opening, confusing, heart wrenching few months.  I’m glad I did HS back then and NOT now.  Where to I begin???

J decided to try his hand at football at the beginning is the year…long story short, it wasn’t for him. Much to my chagrin, he quit the team.  

  • Lesson 1- Quitters never win.  Because he is a basketball player, he had that to fall back on to stay busy.  Unfortunately at his school, if you quit a team, you can’t participate in another sport until the previous sport you quit is OVER! So, he couldn’t do any preseason basketball work outs with potential teammates! This is why we teach the boys to not quit because there will always be consequences. It killed him that he could do anything with his sport until football season was over. He thought he was being punished for quitting.                         ๐Ÿ’”Heartbreak #1๐Ÿ’”

Finally, basketball tryouts come because football season is officially over.  J is excited and ready to show his skills.  End of the week, he’s told he unofficially officially made the JV team. He is over.the.moon!!! This decision was more special than you think because last season he was our because he broke his arm and required 2 surgeries.  This killed him!!!  But he worked hard and was back at it before long and playing ball a mere 4 months later. See why THIS decision was so great and important?? Well….2 days later he was cut! Why???? Apparently some other players from the football team still wanted to try out and that meant pushing some of the poor Frosh out…including mine! ๐Ÿ˜ข. I’m not going to lie, I WAS HEARTBROKEN for him.  I mean tears, people!!! ๐Ÿ’”Heartbreak #2๐Ÿ’”

  • Lesson 2- There is a REASON for everything. I believe this to be true but it is damn hard to to beleive it when it is happening to someone you love! I can’t “fix” this…I can’t make this “better” and this is one of those life lessons that prepares you for…well…LIFE! We have to fall in order to get back up!                           ๐Ÿ’”Heartbreak #3๐Ÿ’”
  • Lesson 3- Be the bigger person. This one was hard for me too! My son was offered to be the Team Manager of the Varsity team.  Wtf???? How about my spot on the team??? But I will say that in all of my/ our parenting flaws, I/we must have done something right.  He accepted the position because (and I quote) “I want to show them how dedicated I am to this sport that I love. And they are going to know I want to be on this team next year. And they won’t forget my work.” No question…without a shadow of a doubt, this kid is a BETTER person than me!  I would have told them where they could put that manager position.๐Ÿ˜‚. But he….he took it and he pridefully gets to be a part of the sport he loves and will (and I quote) “use this to fuel myself to get better and show them I mean it!” ๐Ÿ’“Heart OVERJOYED!!!๐Ÿ’“

He has only been in HS since August and he has had so many lessons in life just within that short period of time.  I love this kid with all my heart and soul and I know this is all part of the plan to get him to his goal.  This kid is pretty amazing and has taught me a lot!   “Laugh at it,  Mom. Make jokes so that way, it shows that you’ve moved on and that people see that it doesn’t bother you“.  
Well played, J! WELL PLAYED!! โค๏ธ 

Thank YOU for teaching ME how to be a better person! 

When did I……?

…..become a parent of a high schooler?

J’s first day at Santa Fe Catholic High School. This is a new school for him, so first day in another way as well. I am beyond nervous for him but he seems confident and ready for the new experience. Prayers, people….PRAYERS!! 

….become a parent of a 4th grader?

Aidan’s first day of school at St.Joseph Catholic School.  This is the first time Aidan has not gone to school with his brother.  He had mixed emotions…happy that he’s the only brother left at the school but sad that he’s the only brother at the school!!! 

….become a football parent AS WELL as a basketball parent?

J decided he wanted to try football this year.  I figure it can’t hurt…well…it CAN hurt really bad!!!  (He’s nursing a muscular injury now because of learning to tackle!  No practice today but back tomorrow…). But it can’t hurt because he is getting great conditioning for basketball and if he doesn’t like it, he gained some experience about another sport! Win WIN in my book! 

….have a child that wants to be a swimmer too??
Aidan spent a month with my sister in VA.  His cousins swim and he desperately wants to swim now! With a month there and swim camp for 6 weeks, we are in swim mode to try and get on a team (or so HE says!). He swims every Saturday at the Y and he loves it! We shall see….

….forget how to use a lock for a locker in school?

I’m totally aging myself here but I remember going “3 turns to the right, 2 turns to the left, 1 turn to the final number”. Over 20 minutes trying to open this damn thing….only to find out you don’t do this ANYMORE!!! Wha????? 

…..become the person that signs up for TWO races in one weekend!!

Yep…while J was figuring out his lock I was registering for the Star Wars Half Marathon Weekend run.  I did the 10k last year and was all too excited when I received the email that sign up was August 9th at noon. You know what I did??? I signed up for the 5k AND 10k!!! It’s costly but I am going to run with some girlfriends from HS and plan on making it a girls weekend! All too excited!!  I need the motivation to get back and what a perfect way!

I am sure this school year will many more firsts, so maybe there will be more “When did I…..?“posts in the future!๐Ÿ˜‰

How was your day??? Did anyone have some first day of school stories???